Throughout the year we are presented with a slices of time, about three weeks give or take, in which we may find our lives going awry for no apparent reason. There are very good explanations for what is happening around us, as with most situations which cause us to be perplexed and confused. But for the purpose of brevity, I ask you to just go with me on this, because one of those slices of time starts tomorrow.
Whether it’s bad karma, some stars in or out of alignment, a Universal Law we are fighting or a devil doing his work (depending on your take on life), we all have these moments where no matter how hard we try to make things go right everything seems to be going wrong.
Psychotherapist and coach Lynn Grodzki, LCSW, calls this as an “AFGO,” or “Another Friggin’ Growth Opportunity.” People often say they want to grow spiritually or improve in their lives, but then complain that they don’t want to try something new.
But doing the same thing over and over and expecting difference results is a great definition for insanity; it’s also counterproductive and frustrating. At such times in our lives it does us good to stop, step back, take one heck of a deep breath, and see if the AFGO before us requires a change in the perspective we have on life.
Ernest Holmes wisely taught us that changing our thinking changes our life. He was not explaining a one-time experience. It’s not like you “change your oil, change your car” and the vehicle works perfectly for the rest of the time we own it. Changing our thinking only changes our life when we are practicing this principle by examining our sacrosanct paradigms on a daily basis. It means we must challenge our own ideas with the same intention that others dare to do.
If we have built our life on a firm foundation as expressed in our personal vision and mission, then the changes, frustrations, obstacles and other AFGOs that present themselves allow us to move forward instead of stopping progress and/or staying stuck.
Over the next three weeks or so be more acutely aware of those AFGOs, of frustration on the part of others, or perhaps yourself. When these golden opportunities present themselves, stop, step back, take one heck of a deep breath, smile to yourself as you recognize the AFGO for what it is and go with the flow of the Universe.
Just remember this when you go with the flow: YOU get to pick the stream.
In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
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