It’s been quite a year, non? That question is an understatement. Well, at least for me and the majority of my readers.
It could seem like the year is ending with uproar and confusion. Added to that is a year ahead which holds more questions than answers. How do we handle the situation? The question, “Now what?” makes complete sense in a state of affairs that is full of uncertainty.
There really is only one constant: Change. Much of what we’ve heard around the world is…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 22, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Have you got anything bugging you this week? I mean something, or someone, that has just gotten under your skin? This time of year can bring out and up all sorts of “stuff,” for lack of a better word.
Our challenges are unique and often very personal. What may appear to be a huge obstacle in my mind may be a mere trifle for you. However, having said that, I am brought to the reason for the title of this blog, “Big Girl Panties,” as in “Bitch, put on your big girl panties and…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 16, 2016 at 1:32pm — No Comments
Do you beat yourself up when you make mistakes? It’s not uncommon, so don’t begin beating yourself up now for previously beating yourself up!
We are taught to put ourselves down. “You shouldn’t have done that,” “little girls should be quiet,” “little boys don’t cry,” and the list goes on. While traveling around the country I hear parents constantly – and often in raised voices – chastising their children for what they’ve done. In airports, hotels and onboard airliners too…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 9, 2016 at 4:03pm — No Comments
(Revised and expanded from the original, published in December 2, 2011)
Do you have a problem telling people “No?” It seems many of my friends or acquaintances feel over-scheduled or stressed-out because of the demands they have put on themselves. Like attracts like, so I too fall into that category more often than I would care to admit.
Please note that responsibility for this situation does not fall on the demands placed on us by others, but rather those that we place on…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 2, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Have you been seeing more problems around you lately? It’s hard to think of a time in the past when it seems the entire world was so upset. If we continue to feed our minds on all the slanted and bias stories in the media this agitation can greatly affect our personal lives.
There is an old…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on November 25, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
What is your personal idea of abundance? First-world thinking about this is far different than what we find in third-world countries. More technologically-advanced countries tend to allow marketing and advertising to dictate what abundance means, while less-developed areas find joy in a simpler life-style.
We don’t have to fall into the corporate trap of “more is better.” Magazines, for example, abound on store shelves claiming the best way to lose weight or gain muscle. The vast…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on November 18, 2016 at 2:19pm — No Comments
Are you still trying to find your “purpose?” The problem is not finding it. The real challenge is what to do after you figure it out!
I starting teaching a workshop over twenty years ago called, “Discovering Your Bliss.” I was in my Joseph Campbell period, a ministerial student and wild about realizing in my own life what a difference having a vision and mission in life can make.
That afternoon seminar morphed itself into a manual and eventually…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on October 21, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments
Do you find yourself becoming increasingly agitated as the United States moves closer to the 2016 Presidential Election? You’re not alone. I’m hearing from people locally, throughout the country, as well as abroad. They are feeling everything from disgust to sincere fear.
This writing is not to affect your vote for one particular candidate. It is, however, using the election, the debates and the misinformation of the media on all candidates as an example of how easily we can…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on October 14, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Snarky, Snide and Sarcastic
We all have our unique ways of expressing ourselves. We can also make ourselves pretty miserable trying to get others to express themselves the same way. Ashleigh Brilliant once wrote that “I need a map of your mind to avoid the most dangerous areas.” Wouldn’t that be helpful!
Some people have a very off-the-wall sense of humor. A person like that can be fun to be around and most entertaining. It is often difficult, however,…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on October 7, 2016 at 6:30am — No Comments
What is really important in your life? I mean, with all that’s going on in the world, what do we really need to know?
Apparently several papers and the Internet media feel the impending divorce of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt is front page news. No, seriously. A local news radio station reported recently this was actually on the front page of several newspapers.
This is not about all the other events that could have taken precedent. We can all name several,…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on September 23, 2016 at 7:00am — No Comments
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What’s Your Daily Practice?
Did you enjoy watching the 2016 Rio Olympics? In spite of the various controversies surrounding these Games, it’s hard not to be impressed with the dedication of the individual athletes.
It was fascinating to watch the competitors mentally rehearse their routines before it was their turn to perform. But this wasn’t playful fantasy. It was vividly remembering years, if not decades in some cases, of practice along with…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on September 9, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Have you ever met someone, thought how similar you were, but then discovered some glaringly different beliefs? It can be most unsettling. We think we’re on the same wavelength and suddenly realize this isn’t true at all.
I remember accepting a temporary secretarial position many years ago that required proficiency with the Word and Excel programs. While my abilities were more than sufficient, I was stopped dead in my tracks when I sat down at the Apple computer in front of…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on August 24, 2016 at 10:20am — No Comments
Ever ask yourself that question? Perhaps you’ve tried relationship after relationship, but nothing seems to have any longevity. Maybe you’ve tried for years to please a relative or mate without success. You may have some examples of your own.
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on August 22, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
It’s the little things that make a difference in our lives. We have the choice whether seemingly insignificant events are going to produce happiness, sorrow, regret or gratitude, among many other emotions. In fact, it’s the small stuff that can actually be a life saver for us.
In Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's, A Study in Scarlet, Sherlock Holmes’ sidekick, Dr. Watson is credited with writing this small piece of wisdom:
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on August 15, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
How do you feel when someone judges you unfairly? Probably pretty lousy, or perhaps very angry. It might make you sad because the opinions of others can feel so undeserved and wrong.
Yet, we all judge. We judge ourselves most severely, but we don’t hesitate to make determinations about others throughout the day that may or may not be based in truth. Jesus said to judgmental people of his day wanting to stone an adulteress that the person who was sinless should be casting the…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on August 8, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Recently I’ve written about having problems as part of experiencing our humanity. I’ve also brought up using disempowerment as a tool of empowering our lives.
Both of these topics have resulted in numerous emails or comments on social media. Most have applauded my stand, but there are a couple of people (in the most severe of criticisms) who think I have no right to be a…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on August 1, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
How tired are you of the negativity, outright lies and blatant disregard for common sense we hear from the media?
It’s like whenever there’s a disaster of any kind in the world: We don’t want to watch, but we do. Sometimes we get so addicted to the details – even though the reporters are merely repeating what was already said 20 minutes earlier – that we find ourselves almost immovable in front of our screen.
If what we are hearing is an…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on July 25, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Do feel like you live from a place of power, meaning you feel empowered in your life, the decisions you make and the direction of your life? My friend and colleague, the well-known prosperity speaker and Unity minister, Rev. Edwene Gaines, introduces herself as a “woman of power.” That rubs some people the wrong way and Edwene couldn’t give a rat’s patooty about it.
It seems society teaches us to vie for power and then criticizes those who pursue it, particularly if that…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on July 18, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Have you noticed how we hold celebrities and spiritual leaders to a higher standard than others? We can be quick to criticize the conduct of people we hold in high esteem if what they do or say doesn’t fit the pictures we’ve created of them.
For example, if celebrity couples separate or divorce the gossip rags go crazy, citing the events as yet another example of how famous people can’t manage relationships well – as if the general public can cast the first stone or look to…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on July 11, 2016 at 5:18pm — No Comments