Are you a quitter? “Of course not!” you might exclaim as if being classified as a quitter is worse than being a murderer. In some ways, you’d be right.
We are taught never quit, never give up. It’s drilled into our heads that quitters are losers. However, recent studies indicate that quitting a job, a relationship, a project or any number of other things might be one of the more healthy actions we can take.
Economist tells us that there is a point where we must cut our losses…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on April 14, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
What do you look forward to in life? Have you noticed how you may be excited to see some friends, but dread running into other people? One reason might be the energy and attitude those people bring to the party, regardless of it being encouraging or depressing.
Granted, we all have those times when we’ve over-planned and over-scheduled our lives. We may be living the life we love, but have gotten out of balance by too much work and not enough relaxation time. That can lead to us…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on April 7, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Throughout the year we are presented with a slices of time, about three weeks give or take, in which we may find our lives going awry for no apparent reason. There are very good explanations for what is happening around us, as with most situations which cause us to be perplexed and confused. But for the purpose of brevity, I ask you to just go with me on this, because one of those slices of time starts tomorrow.
Whether it’s bad karma, some stars in or out of alignment, a Universal…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 31, 2017 at 5:00am — No Comments
I read a great blog last week by my friend and colleague, Ellen Debenport. I realized right away I had to share it this week.
Stay with it - even though it's difficult at times! It's SO worth it!
In Spirit, Truth and Playfulness,
The Greatest Spiritual Teacher, by Ellen Debenport
Who is currently the greatest spiritual teacher in your life?
Good chance it’s Donald Trump.
Stay with me on this, because…
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 24, 2017 at 6:00am — No Comments
How’s your knowledge of parliamentary procedure? I’m spending five days right now with a couple thousand teenagers from all over the globe who already know far more that I do about the subject.
I’m in New York City for the 2017 National High School Model United Nations (NHSMUN) conference. I’m one of five chaperones who have accompanied the 60 students from Carlisle High School to the Big Apple. It’s my ninth year and these young people continue to amaze me.…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 17, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Do you know where your cell phone is? Perhaps not. Many of us misplace them more often than we’d like to admit. Today, of all days, we might take a moment to appreciate why we have them in our lives.
It was 141 years ago today, in 1876, that Alexander Graham Bell is purported to have spoken the words of today’s blog title to his assistant, Thomas Watson. “The rest is history” pales at best considering where we’ve arrived today. But exactly where is that?
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 10, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
I find it odd that people calling themselves Christians are boycotting the new "Beauty and the Beast" movie just because the character, LeFou (Gaston's sidekick) is shown questioning his feelings for another guy. THIS bothers the Bible belters even though Jesus said nothing about men loving one…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 7, 2017 at 12:19pm — No Comments
We live in a smaller town in the area. The main post office is quite neighborly, with many of the patrons chatting back and forth while waiting in line. The line one day this week was quite long. I was able to pass the time listening to what other people were saying. Oh stop gasping, for heaven’s sake – it’s not like they were trying to be private!…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on March 3, 2017 at 6:30am — No Comments
Do you like to be labeled? Try asking that question to five people and you’ll find that most if not all will assume the term label to which you may be alluding will be derogatory. I’m not sure why, but it’s a fun experiment.
While we may not like to be labeled we are often guilty of labeling others. Have you noticed that when we meet someone new it’s not uncommon to find the questions steered in very basic directions: Are you married? What do you do for a living? What…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on February 24, 2017 at 4:00am — No Comments
Is that a typo in the title? No. But when you think about it, consciousmess just might describe life as we know it right now. At this moment in time it seems a lot of us are angry with this mess we believe humans have made of our planet. But under the outrage is another, simpler emotion: Fear.
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on February 17, 2017 at 8:14am — No Comments
Have you got complaints? “Have I got complaints? You should only HAVE the problems I have!” It’s not enough that we have our own issues to deal with. On top of everything else there’s the constant stream of bad news coming to us from social media. What can we do?
First of all, we can stop complaining. I realize, quite acutely, that you may have someone in your life that has made bitching about everything into an art form. It’s not healthy. What we focus on increases in our life. Do we…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on February 10, 2017 at 3:30am — No Comments
How do you feel about that question? Many people, including me, have gone through periods of feeling absolutely paralyzed due to conditions in our world that seem to be out of our control. When we allow issues to become monumental in our lives we can feel frozen, unable to do even the simplest of daily chores.…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on February 3, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Are you struggling with life? Do current events, political changes, social injustice issues or family dynamics cause you grief? If so, you’re not alone.
Life is supposed to be easy. Does that immediately bring up all the examples you can think about to prove that statement wrong? Great! That means you have a starting point. Even if you only slighted raised an eyebrow you’ve reacted in a typical – and what most people would consider normal – way.…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on January 27, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Are you concerned about your future? Perhaps that’s a rhetorical question, since who isn’t apprehensive at times in our world today from time-to-time? Yet, think about this: Beginning today, what has changed?
Have racism, hatred toward minorities and religious groups, denial of scientific facts and violence against women, gays, lesbians and the transgender community suddenly begun? Hardly. These outdated ideas and deplorable actions have been going on for centuries. Hard as…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on January 20, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Do you enjoy finding new writers to read? I do and I also enjoy sharing those people with my friends and readers.
For that reason I'm going to be sharing the writing of several people from time-to-time this year with you.
One such person is my friend and Unity minister, Rev. Ellen Debenport. Her blog for this week is below and speaks to me on a very deep level.
Admitting where we are instead of pretending everything is great is…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on January 13, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
Have you had your fill of empty promises from our elected officials? Are you sick and tired of hearing that same excuses from your spouse? Do you have any confidence at all in the agreements your boss has made with you? Sadly, most of us will answer “NO!” to one or more of these questions.
So what do we do about it? If we put up and shut up we’re playing the victim game. That makes us look pathetic, but at least we have the satisfaction of garnering at least some sympathy,…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on January 6, 2017 at 3:00am — No Comments
It’s been quite a year, non? That question is an understatement. Well, at least for me and the majority of my readers.
It could seem like the year is ending with uproar and confusion. Added to that is a year ahead which holds more questions than answers. How do we handle the situation? The question, “Now what?” makes complete sense in a state of affairs that is full of uncertainty.
There really is only one constant: Change. Much of what we’ve heard around the world is…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 22, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments
Have you got anything bugging you this week? I mean something, or someone, that has just gotten under your skin? This time of year can bring out and up all sorts of “stuff,” for lack of a better word.
Our challenges are unique and often very personal. What may appear to be a huge obstacle in my mind may be a mere trifle for you. However, having said that, I am brought to the reason for the title of this blog, “Big Girl Panties,” as in “Bitch, put on your big girl panties and…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 16, 2016 at 1:32pm — No Comments
Do you beat yourself up when you make mistakes? It’s not uncommon, so don’t begin beating yourself up now for previously beating yourself up!
We are taught to put ourselves down. “You shouldn’t have done that,” “little girls should be quiet,” “little boys don’t cry,” and the list goes on. While traveling around the country I hear parents constantly – and often in raised voices – chastising their children for what they’ve done. In airports, hotels and onboard airliners too…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 9, 2016 at 4:03pm — No Comments
(Revised and expanded from the original, published in December 2, 2011)
Do you have a problem telling people “No?” It seems many of my friends or acquaintances feel over-scheduled or stressed-out because of the demands they have put on themselves. Like attracts like, so I too fall into that category more often than I would care to admit.
Please note that responsibility for this situation does not fall on the demands placed on us by others, but rather those that we place on…Continue
Added by Terry Drew Karanen on December 2, 2016 at 6:00am — No Comments